Self-confidence is one of the first things people notice in you, and it can take you further than almost any other attribute.

So the first question is, how do you know if you posses self-confidence? You may think you have self-confidence, but is it the superficial kind which is just at the surface. Having true deep self-confidence is much different, and is what really matters. For instance, how many incredibly attractive people do you know, who may project self-confidence but are really the least confident of all? I would wager the answer is a “large portion”.

To find out how confident you are, there is a simple test which is best described in an example. If someone comes up to you telling you about their trip to China. They describe how the Chinese do things, about their culture, and what are the great sites to see. Yet, they do not know that you lived there for 2 years, and know far more about China. Do you have to one up them, and tell them everything you know, or can you just let them have their story and not mention anything? If you can just let them have their moment, you have true self-confidence.